Note: the first couple times you use Time Out, it may take them longer to calm down. When they’ve reached the minimum time requirement and they’ve had a calm voice and body for a couple minutes, then you can declare that Time Out is over. (See below.) Longer Time Outs are not effective and may just make the child resentful and resistant to future Time Outs. For older children, we start at 5 but increase up to 9 if needed.
How Longįor a three year old*, we set a baseline of three minutes, for a four year old four minutes. If Time Out makes the most sense, you can go to your car, or to a quiet corner with them while they take a Time Out from your attention. If your child misbehaves in public, consider using another discipline tool. You might choose to include a few calm down tools in this place, such as a Calm Down Bottle, a favorite stuffed animal, a stress ball, a weighted vest or blanket, or bubbles to blow.Ĭall this the Time Out Place or the Calming Place.Other parents, who focus more on the calm-down aspect of Time Out than the punitive aspect, may find that the bedroom works well. Some parents avoid the child’s bedroom as they don’t want the child to think of their room as a punitive place.Safe: Bathrooms or kitchens can be dangerous places for kids to be without close supervision.(For example, the back of the classroom is better than the front, or just around the corner from the dining table where you can keep an eye on them but your other children can’t see them, is better than somewhere that will draw the attention of other kids (who then may try to provoke the child who is in Time Out.)
Out of the way of the flow of traffic, so you don’t have to move past the child, and not in a place that tends to draw the attention of other children.Boring: Somewhere with no toys, books or screens to provide pleasant experiences.If you need a break, be honest about that, and take one. Sometimes, you may want to send your child to a Time Out because you need a break. If a simple reminder gets them to comply, you won’t need Time Out – it is for more intentional or chronic non-compliance.) (Note: all young children ignore or disobey about 1 out of 3 commands. Time Out is best when used sparingly, for aggression – situations when your child is hurting someone or something, or for non-compliance – times when you have tried other discipline tools and your child continues to disobey. Make sure your child clearly knows what behavior will lead to a time out. Practice it a few times at a family meeting so everyone knows exactly how it will work, and what the goals are of using it. (Springing the idea on an unsuspecting child in the middle of a meltdown is not going to work!)Įxplain your plan to your child in advance, when everyone is calm. Make your plan in advance for how you’ll use time out. If your child is often ignored, Time Out isn’t much different, or the process of misbehaving and being sent to Time Out may be the way the child actually gets themselves some attention from the parent. If your child normally gets lots of positive attention from you, then Time Out is a big change from that. Time Out will only be effective within the context of a supportive, loving relationship. Time Out is not jail… it’s not intended to make your child suffer for their crimes. For bigger issues, we use Time Out, which is spending time in a boring place, for a prescribed time, getting no attention. Time Out is a chance for your child to calm down (and for you to calm down), then return to better behavior. So, for mild misbehavior that’s just annoying, we use the “ Ignoring” tool. Children like attention, so will act in the ways that get the most notice from their parents – whether it’s negative or positive attention. ) What is Time Out?įirst, let’s understand what it is: It’s Time Out from Positive Attention. We would instead: remove the child from the situation, hold them calmly for a minute or so, or sit with them till they’re calm, then let them return to play.
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(* Age note: For a two year old, we don’t really do a prolonged Time Out with this full method. Time Out is an important tool in the discipline toolbox, but it’s an easy one to mis-use or over-use, and it doesn’t work for all families, but let’s examine the best practices for time out.
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